Skip to main content

'LABISI: Chronicles of a Breast Cancer Survivor


CHAPTER 3

Journal entry by Karen Delgado- 6/1/2010

‘I had my first opportunity to use a GPS this past weekend…WOW…how comforting to be able to have someone see the ‘big picture’ and point you in the right direction…with such a calm comforting tone. Just enjoy the drive, trust in the technology, and arrive safely at your destination.   

As I was thinking it was so nice to have this device- especially when I had no idea of where I was…and absolutely no idea of how to get where I needed to go…I thought about how this was such a good analogy for the kind of trust we need to put in God’s word/His wisdom.
Just knowing that God sees the ‘big picture’…He knows the end of our destination…and best of all, He knows how to get us there.'

------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
MOTHER went to church. All too frequently; I often thought- and when she would go, I would mumble some words, along those familiar lines of the words ‘Pray for us’.
It was something we had been taught to mumble cheerfully, a request most people didn’t even remember that they’d acquiesced to while leaving home, school or wherever- en route church.
As one matured, it became as   familiar a greeting in our environment, as the regular ‘good morning’ greeting or the unquestioning question ‘How are you?’ which you were definitely expected to reply by saying ‘fine’ or ‘I’m fine’ to.

Mother, before her death, had known her diagnosis; and now that I think of it, she’d known it for close to 7 months before that hospitalization.

Initially, the news had been received with an eerie sense of calm- followed by unbelief, which was swiftly followed by actions filled with so much fervour.

She had gone through the stages of grief- denial, d- but not in any particular order. I witnessed a change, in those months.

Mother would return from her teaching job and would head over to the latest prayer house- it was never constant; Prophet this or Bishop that conducted special prayer meetings on almost every day of the week- and no matter how far, she seemed to muster enough strength to attend.

I had been raised a Christian, and I still am one; yet, one day, after faking a sense of ennui yet watching mother cast furtive glances about, searching for possible evil spirits in her room before she would leave for yet another prayer meeting; which might be converted into a vigil- judging by some of the recent ones, I had burst into tears, tears of anguish.

‘God! Why do bad things happen to good people? What did mother do wrong?’ I had asked, over and over again.

I felt a sense of overwhelming peace, that day; convinced that whatever would happen, regardless of the outcome of this situation, we would be fine.

Before she would die, mother found peace. She seemed to finally find solace, and the God whom she had been searching for, not from one prayer house or another- but at home, in her room. She was no longer strongly motivated by fear and began to smile, instead of casting furtive glances.

30 years in remembrance of the one woman whom I still call  mother. 30 years, and I stand in her pointy shoes, with a lump in my breast.

Comments

Popular posts from this blog

WANNABE INTERN

Week 2 Message to the Pre-Intern: don’t lose hope! Week 2, for me, was 2 months post-induction. This was when the wait began to sink in. You mean I’ve been home for two whole months? By now, I was literally chewing on my fingernails. Don’t get me wrong, I wasn’t scared of getting a space, but I certainly wasn’t confident about any place anymore. That is when I began to write this book. Today is the 12th of September and I sit at the dining table in my parents’ house, typing at 11:27pm (because well, I have an editing job to finish up, but mostly because I don’t have to go anywhere tomorrow morning). If I don’t want to, I don’t even have to take a bath tomorrow morning because well, I can stay indoors all day! (I most likely will stay indoors, except for those few minutes when I step out to buy hot akara for my akamu). I am spent. You know, I have applied to a couple of places now. Let me start with the first: LS Health Service Commission At the State Health servic...

RESOURCEFULNESS

We all have about 6 needs, which we have to uncover, not necessarily create: ·          CERTAINTY ·          UNCERTAINTY ·          SIGNIFICANCE ·          CONNECTION & LOVE ·          GROWTH ·          CONTRIBUTION, WHICH IS BEYOND OURSELVES The first 4 needs don’t necessarily bring about fulfillment but the last two do. You can have all the comfort/certainty in the world and still remain unfulfilled. You could even switch over to variety i.e. uncertainty-yes, you’ld get adrenaline pumping through your veins, but it’ld be temporary. Significance? We all try to find significance, be it through achievements or by gaining recognition as one thing or the other. Connection is a beautiful thing and love is very accepting, irrespectiv...

Lateral Thinking with FEMI OLADELE

Blessed trinity; how many times and in how many ways? How convenient it is for me to try to estimate the virtues that the presence of GOD exudes; in ignorance obviously. Can you imagine the power of HIS might? And HE took me through a journey of understanding and I failed HIS test, because my human ability is frail and fails. Only a supernatural understanding of GOD as the three-in-one GOD appearing as: Our help in ages past; Our hope for years to come; and Our very present help in time of need. If you therefore need help, fetch from the fullness thereof; it is inexhaustible yet with a price. Many misconstrue the gifts of GOD as free; I presume, it is cheap and affordable but not free. The difference between HIM and his arch rival is that the latter charges high interests like Deposit Money Banks (DMBs) in Nigeria. GOD pays premium however; if you have to choose; choose LIFE and BLESSING. It is not without challenges that this life we live, that I live, actually.